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Stop Trying to be Perfect

2026-05-11 · 44 min · 22 entities

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Asserted relationships

  • → references pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov concept
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    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3730094
  • → references Arthur C Brooks person
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    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0
  • → references Im OK Youre OK Thomas Harris book
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    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://amazon.com/Im-OK-Youre-OK-Thomas-Harris/dp/0060724277
  • → hosted by Arthur Brooks person
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    Feed author/publisher: Arthur Brooks
  • → discusses Health & Fitness concept
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    Feed category: Health & Fitness
  • → discusses Mental Health person
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    Feed category: Mental Health
  • → references Articles website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5641986
  • → references Record website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-10557-008
  • → references Arthurbrooks website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://noblemobile.com/arthurbrooks
  • → references Arthurcbrooks website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0
  • → references The Pursuit of Happiness website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur

Entities found in this episode

websites 10

  • mentioned Articles website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5641986
  • mentioned Record website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-10557-008
  • mentioned Arthurbrooks website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://noblemobile.com/arthurbrooks
  • mentioned Arthurcbrooks website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0
  • mentioned The Pursuit of Happiness website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur
  • references Articles website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5641986
  • references Record website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-10557-008
  • references Arthurbrooks website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://noblemobile.com/arthurbrooks
  • references Arthurcbrooks website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0
  • references The Pursuit of Happiness website
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur

persons 6

  • mentioned Arthur C Brooks person
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0
  • references Arthur C Brooks person
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0
  • mentioned Arthur Brooks person
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    Feed author/publisher: Arthur Brooks
  • hosted by Arthur Brooks person
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    Feed author/publisher: Arthur Brooks
  • mentioned Mental Health person
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    Feed category: Mental Health
  • discusses Mental Health person
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    Feed category: Mental Health

concepts 4

  • mentioned pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov concept
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10199217
  • references pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov concept
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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3730094
  • mentioned Health & Fitness concept
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    Feed category: Health & Fitness
  • discusses Health & Fitness concept
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    Feed category: Health & Fitness

books 2

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    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://amazon.com/Im-OK-Youre-OK-Thomas-Harris/dp/0060724277
  • 0.77
    evidence rules-v5
    Link in episode "Stop Trying to be Perfect": https://amazon.com/Im-OK-Youre-OK-Thomas-Harris/dp/0060724277
Episode description as stored
Sometimes, the most insidious thing someone can tell you to make you feel better is the age-old phrase, “but you’re perfect!” While research suggests this may ease emotional pain temporarily, it might actually be holding you back from growth and, consequently, satisfaction. In this episode of Office Hours , I explore why we avoid uncomfortable truths when feeling down, and why the better path towards fulfillment is honest self-acceptance—embracing your imperfections, and taking on the challenge to improve. — Brought to you by: • Noble Mobile —With Noble, there is only one plan: The No-Bull Plan. It’s simple. It’s transparent. And if you use less data, you get cash back. Get an exclusive offer at: https://noblemobile.com/arthurbrooks — Where to find Arthur Brooks:  • Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://arthurbrooks.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • In-person Retreats: https://retreats.arthurbrooks.com/ • Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.arthurbrooks.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • X: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://x.com/arthurbrooks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGuyFRjJQFGCKzfHTBvWM6A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠officehours@arthurbrooks.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (06:50) The psychology of self-enhancement bias (10:39) Who suffers most from self-enhancement bias (15:50) Why we protect others with comforting lies (17:16) What the research shows about self-enhancement bias (22:57) #1: You’re not perfect but you’re normal (25:37) #2: Accept yourself (27:05) #3: Work to improve (30:03) #4: Don’t blame other people (32:05) #5: Reframe imperfections as puzzles (35:48) Q&A: People pleasing and happiness (37:33) Q&A: Finding time for happiness in a busy life (39:24) Q&A: Teaching happiness habits to young children — Referenced: • The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness : themeaningofyourlife.com • Meaning Membership: https://hub.arthurbrooks.com/the-meaning-membership   • The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale   • The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks : https://www.thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur • I'm OK--You're OK: The Pioneering and Bestselling Self-Help Guide : https://www.amazon.com/Im-OK-Youre-OK-Thomas-Harris/dp/0060724277 • Taking time seriously. A theory of socioemotional selectivity: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10199217 • Comparative perceptions of driver ability--a confirmation and expansion: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3730094 • The Illusion of Moral Superiority: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5641986 • Age and the better‐than‐average effect: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-10557-008 • The dorsal anterior cingulate cortex is selective for pain: Results from large-scale reverse inference: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26582792 • ...References continued at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.arthurbrooks.com/office-hours⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Production and marketing by ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://penname.co/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠.