221: Can You Get Them To Change?
2026-08-21 · 32 min · episode 221 · 15 entities
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Episode description as stored
Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.
If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.
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Chapters:
00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous
02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him
05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs
09:30 What Discernment Actually Means
11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?
14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating
17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy
19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To
21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise
25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change
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