What Is Really Stopping You? Fear, Autopilot, and the Ninth Silent War with Lauri Clontz
2026-07-23 · 32 min · episode 147 · 20 entities
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What is really stopping you from moving forward?
For veterans, leaders, and high performers, fear does not always look like fear. Sometimes it looks like anger, avoidance, perfectionism, isolation, overworking, or shutting down before life has the chance to hurt us again.
In this episode of Your Thoughts, Your Reality , Michael Cole sits down with Lauri Clontz, founder of Start Driving Your Destiny , a transformational movement helping people stop living on autopilot and begin creating their lives with greater clarity, confidence, and purpose.
After spending approximately 24 years climbing the corporate ladder, Lauri appeared highly successful from the outside. She led international teams, became the person everyone depended on, and built a reputation for always getting the job done. Underneath that performance, however, was a quieter battle driven by fear, perfectionism, self-doubt, and the belief that she always had to prove she was enough.
Together, Mike and Lauri explore The Ninth Silent War: Fear .
Lauri explains how fear can disguise itself as responsibility, excellence, productivity, or control. She shares how her need to perform kept her working 12- to 14-hour days, isolated her from the people she loved, and ultimately cost her one of the most important moments of her life: being present during her father’s final moments.
That painful realization forced her to confront a difficult question:
What are you working so hard for if the life you are building keeps taking you away from what matters most?
This conversation directly connects to several of The 10 Silent Wars , including:
Fear — “What am I avoiding, and what is really driving my behavior?”
Self-Worth — “Why do I believe I must constantly perform to prove I am enough?”
Control — “Am I intentionally directing my life, or reacting from old patterns?”
Direction — “Is the way I am living taking me where I truly want to go?”
Identity — “Who am I beneath the perfectionism, productivity, and expectations?”
Lauri also explains how the brain develops protective patterns during pressure, rejection, trauma, and repeated stress. Those patterns may have helped us survive an earlier season of life, but they can eventually keep us trapped in automatic reactions that no longer serve who we are becoming.
The answer is not to shame yourself for those patterns.
It is to recognize them, name what is driving them, separate them from your identity, and begin choosing a different direction—one small action at a time.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why fear often appears as perfectionism, anger, avoidance, or overperformance
How old survival patterns can quietly take control of your daily decisions
The warning signs that you may be living on autopilot
Why productivity does not always mean you are making meaningful progress
How to identify what is truly driving your behavior
Why small, imperfect actions can create lasting momentum
How celebration helps reinforce healthier patterns and choices
The first step you can take today to begin reclaiming control of your life
Start by connecting more deeply with the Your Thoughts, Your Reality community:
👉 https://yourthoughtsyourreality.com/
Watch the full conversation and subscribe to the YouTube channel for more discussions about The 10 Silent Wars :
👉 https://www.youtube.com/@YourThoughtsYourReality
To connect with Lauri and learn more about her work, search Start Driving Your Destiny on Instagram and Facebook, or search Lauri Clontz on Facebook and LinkedIn.
And when you are ready to take the next step toward meaningful change in your mindset, identity, and direction:
👉 https://empowerperformancestrategies.com/
Because your thoughts shape your reality…
And once you recognize what has been driving you, you can take back the keys and choose where your life goes next.
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