591: Ryan Holiday (LIVE! In Austin) - Good Values, Good Character, Good Deeds (Right Thing, Right Now)

Read our book, The Score That Matters https://amzn.to/3XxHi7p Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com   This episode is supported by Insight Global . Insight Global is a staffing company dedicated to empowering people. Please CLICK HERE for premier staffing and talent. Ryan Holiday is one of the world's bestselling living philosophers. His books like The Obstacle Is the Way, Ego Is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic, and the #1 New York Times bestseller Stillness Is the Key appear in more than 40 languages and have sold more than 5 million copies. His latest book (a #1 NY Times Best-Seller) is called Right Thing, Right Now . This conversation was recorded in person at Ryan's bookstore, The Painted Porch, which sits on historic Main St in Bastrop, Texas. Notes: June 16, 2024 – Birthday and Father's Day. How does stoicism impact you as a dad? "What's at stake today is how they remember you 20 years from now." Choose a North Star  -- C hoosing a North Star can function as a compass professionally, personally, and morally. Most people don't do the work to figure out what their North Star is… Most people default to what others do, and then they end up comparing themselves to others. Ryan Holiday's North Star?  Writing... Pay the taxes of life gladly : Not just from the government. Annoying people are a tax on being outside your house. Delays are a tax on travel. Haters are a tax on having a YouTube channel. There's a tax on everything in life. You can whine. Or you can pay them gladly. Oscar Wilde wrote in The Portrait of Dorian Grey "The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly. That is what each of us is here for." —- What are you here for ? Stoicism - "A stoic doesn't control what happens but they focus on how to respond to what happened. The virtues of stoicism are courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom." Build a coaching tree -- Popovich reference - and his coaching tree - how do we get better at making a goal to build a forest of leaders? What's interesting about Pop's coaching tree is there is a huge diversity of what he's created. What's interesting is the coaches who have learned from him are all different - they're not replicas of Coach Popovich.  RC Buford (GM of the San Antonio Spurs) said, "We have a good coaching tree. That's what we do here. In all roles." A shocking number of players have decided to stay in San Antonio, so much so that they have an alumni locker room in their practice facility because they choose to stick around afterward. "I love the idea of "hey we're an organization, and we want to win, but our ultimate job is to bring good people in, and bring them better, and learn from them along the way." "We don't talk enough about the bad coaching trees… ultimately you measure greatness about how replicable their system is and others can take it and use it as well. Don't just judge people on their wins, but on their coaching tree… or lack thereof. When you're hiring someone, can you both be on the same page - and there's clarity. When I get invited to something, who am I bringing? Or when it's a specific project, who on my team will crush it with me or on their own? Understanding that this will be a tour of duty. Robert Greene - "Robert knew I wanted to be a writer and he knew what I wanted to do, and it allowed me to realize that he was letting me do this to understand how the whole writing process works. If somebody wants to work with someone else, what's the best way to reach out to that person, to try and get your foot in the door." Mentors : (Advice to mentees) "Don't say 'I'll do whatever, or I'll do anything,' I don't need anything done, I have very specific things that need to be done. Don't present them with the problem of you…. Present them with the problem they have and several ideas that you have to potentially help. Be specific and present a solution to a potential problem that maybe they haven't thought about yet." Keep your hands clean - the difference between Patrick